Make them religious; the foundation of all excellence is in true piety of the heart. Mothers who wish not only to discharge well their own duties in the domestic circle, but to train up their daughters at a later day to make happy and comfortable firesides for their families, should watch well, and guard well, the notions which they imbibed, and which they grow up.
One main fality abroad in this age is the notion , that women, unless compelled to it by absolute poverty, are out of place when engaged in domestic affairs
Let mothers avoid such danger. If they would do so, they must bring up their daughters from the first with the idea that in this world it is required to give as well as to receive, to minister as well as to enjoy; that every person is bound to be useful, practically, literally useful, in his or her sphere.
Women's sphere is the house - her home; its concerns and demands: these are her first duties.
Once really imbued with this belief, and taught to see how much the happiness of a women herself, as well as her family, depends on this part of her discharge of duty, a young girl will usually be anxious to learn all that her mother is disposed to teach.
She will be proud and happy to aid in any domestic occupations assigned to her, which need never be made so heavy as to interfere with the peculiar duties of her age, or its peculiar duties of her age, or its peculiar delights.
If a mother wishes to see her daughter become a good happy, and rational woman, never let her admit of contempt for domestic occupations, or even suffer them to be deemed secondary. They may be varied in character by station, but they can never be secondary to a woman.
Therefore teach your daughters to keep accounts, so that they may learn the value of money
Teach them to work, that they may not waste their time if rich, nor helpless if poor.
Educate the mind, refine the taste, and exalt the character, by keeping the love of excellence, in all they do, before them.
Then they will be fitted to shine in domestic and social life, and to understand Literature, Art, and Science and these conduce to goodness and happiness.
The Mother at Home - By the quiet fireside at home, the true mother, in the midst of her children, is sowing as in the vases of the earth, the seeds of plants that shall some time give to Heaven the fragrance of their blossoms, and whose fruit shall be to us a rosary of angelic deeds, the noblest offering that she can make through the ever ascending and expanding souls of her children to her Maker.
Every word that she utters goes from heart to heart with a power of which she little dreams. Philosophers tell us in their speculations that we cannot lift a finger without moving distant spheres.
Solemn is the thought that every word that falls from a mother's lip, every expression of her countenance, may leave an indelible impress upon the young souls about her, and form the underlying strain of that education which people's Heaven with celestial beings, and gives to the white brow of the angel, next to the grace of God, its crown of glory.
Teach your Children Obedience. It is unspeakable what a blessing it is to a child, what a saving of unhappiness in after life, to be early taught absolute obedience; there must be no hesitation or asking why, but what a mother says must at once be done.
The young twig bends easily, but remember, that in after years it grows hard, and will break before you bend it. A little steadiness at first will save you many years sorrow.
While you insist upon obedience, however, you must take care that you do not provoke a child, and tempt it to disobediently unreasonable and foolish demands
"Provoke not your children to wrath;" and when it is necessary to punish them, see that it never be done violently and in a passion, but as a duty.
Going in Debt - A lady should never go in debt, unless she is sure of having the means of payment.
Shopping - Never go shopping for amusement - you rob the shopkeeper of his time and waste your own.
A young lady at home can find or make pleasant amusements; one of the most healthful is the study of botany or flowers.
A garden, or rather the fields and woods, will be filled with new interest if you love the flowers, and can read their history.
The language of flowers has been studied and arranged by the people of the East. A few specimens of this may be admitted here, as an amusement for those who are idle or curious.
BALLS AND EVENING PARTIES
An invitation to a ball should be given at least a week beforehand.
Upon entering, first address the lady of the house; and after he, the nearest acquaintances you may recognize in the house.
If you introduce a friend, make him acquainted with the name of the chief persons present. But first present him to the lady of the house, and the host.
Appear in full dress.
Always wear gloves.
Do not wear rings on the outside of your gloves.
Avoid excess of jewelry.
Do not select the same partner frequently.
Distribute you attentions much as possible.
Pay respectful attention to elderly persons.
Be cordial when serving refreshments, but not importunate.
If there are more dancers than the room will accommodate, do not join in every dance.
In leaving a large party, it is unnecessary to bid farewell, and improper to do so before the guests.
A Paris card of invitation an evening party usually implies that you are invited for the season.
The host and hostess should look after their guests, and not confine their attentions. They should, in fact, assist those chiefly who are the least known in the room.
Avoid political and religious discussions. If you have a "hobby" keep it to yourself.
After dancing, conduct your partner to a seat.
Resign her as soon as her next partner advances.